Illustrated book lessons from the book Make your bed

Category – Self help

Reading time – 2 minutes

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As a man thinketh – A pictorial revisit #picturestory

Category – psychology

Reading time – 2 minutes

As a man thinketh, so is he.

Manifest personality is end result of all the thoughts.

Each thought has a certain end result on circumstances.

Thoughts finally reveal themselves.

Psychology is mixture of all your thoughts.

Habits are dependent on thoughts, which in turn affect the life.

Bad thoughts, bad outcomes.

Inner thoughts must be in harmony with outer behaviour for a happy life.

Bad thoughts end up in bad lives.

Our biggest superpower is that we can choose which thoughts to focus upon.

Lessons from the book think straight by Darius foroux – #dariusforoux #psychology

Category- psychology

Reading time -3 minutes

I wish to clarify one thing. This man is not the founder of these thoughts but only one of many bloggers writing about ideas of greats of past centuries.

He read all the books by William James and observed that even though we can’t control all our conscious thoughts, but we can very well decide which thoughts to focus upon.

This selection of thoughts will eventually lead to better habits and hence better actions.

Basically he is borrowing and editing ideas of James Allen and Victor frenkel for his book.

This school of thought is called pragmatism.

Or we can say practical approach to the life.

Few of thoughts in this small book.

Question the source of belief, not the belief itself.

Life is not linear. Path from idea to goal is tipsy turvy.

Filter good thoughts out of heap of millions of your thoughts.

Be aware of your thoughts with regular practice.

Don’t think more about things that you can’t control. You can’t change them anyway.

Always remain aware of unknown unknowns.

There is no truth but Intrepretations of facts by different minds.

Don’t trust first thoughts; that crop up in your mind. Take your time.

Don’t reply to everything immediately. Take some time.

Take breaks to start afresh; in between your endeavours.

Don’t overthink.

There is no absolute proof and all over decisions are bet on the workings of the universe.

Almanack of jay samit – his advice for young readers. #jaysamit

Reading time – 3 minutes

Category- business

Jay Samit is the former Independent Vice Chairman of Deloitte. An American digital media innovator, he has pioneered advancements in music and video distribution, social media, and ecommerce. He is the author of the bestselling book Disrupt You!

Here are few lessons that he shares in his latest book. Future proofing you.

1. You can’t get rich by saving, you get rich by creating money.

2. You can’t become super rich by working hard; but instead by working smart.

3. See your defeciencies as opportunity, not a pullback.

4. Next big thing is spatial computing that Integrates internet with immediate surroundings.

5. Money is not a good target, following a passion brings a lots of it.

6. You can’t grow without a growth mindset.

7. There are no lives free of obstacles. Leverage these obstacles for success.

8. Failure is not a zero sum game. It teaches a lot and prepares you for the next time.

9. Fear is natural and necessary; if within reasonable limits.

10. Insight and perseverance are the only two things; that you will need to succeed.

11. Finding a right mentor gives you wings

12. Fill the void created by any new technology to succeed quickly. Like accessories for phone.

Inspiration – future proofing you by jay samit

What we know about sleep – till now #science #discovery

Reading time – 10 minutes

Category – science

A modern human being is obsessed about profits and bank balances and hence, easily forgets about real wealth, that a man can desire and achieve.

A healthy body with a healthy mind is the most precious thing one can achieve.

Everyday, every human on the face of the earth does a thing which is most undervalued and neglected; inspite of being a absolute healer.

Sleep is an automatic and useless thing till we are unable to sleep even after trying or time doesn’t permit for it.

In this article let’s see what is the latest scientific knowledge about sleep and how it can help us .

Every living being on earth has a circadian rythm, which is internal clock set by the Sun over the millennia.

It was shown in plants in 1729. And after two hundred years it was shown in humans too.

It decides our waking and sleeping times. It is controlled by suprachiasmatic nucleus situated just above the point where both optic nerves cross each other.

It controls various rythms in body like temperature, metabolic rate, sugar levels, adrenal hormones and other vital functions.

Circadian rhythm varies in different people. Around 40% are morning type, who go to bed early and get up early in the morning.

30% are night types who sleep late and hence get up late. It includes the author of this article.

30% fall somewhere in between.

There are two main things that control sleeping habits of humans.

1. Circadian rhythm controlled by suprachiasmatic nucleus. It signals release of Melantonin which is a hormone secreted by pineal gland. It signals as a starting signal to the person that dark has arrived and you should try to sleep. It is a signal but it doesn’t help in induction of the process of sleep.

2. Sleep pressure – During wakefulness adenosine accumulates in the brain neurons which creates a pressure on the person to sleep. When we sleep it is cleared and sleep pressure falls to normal

Most important thing is that these two systems work independent of each other.

Types of sleep.

Let’s now come to sleep. It is mainly of two types depending on whether your eyes move automatically in your orbits or not at a particular point while you are sleeping..

1. NREM is non REM sleep in which eyeballs show only slow rythmic movements.

2. REM – Rapid eye movement sleep – in it eyes dart fast in the orbits.

Individual pecularities of both types of sleep.

NREM has 4 stages going from light ( stage 1) to stage 4 ( very deep).

It is believed to be a phase of consolidation of new information and facts. It declutters unwanted and less useful information from the neural connections.

It dominates first half of the night.

It is main sleep after a long period of sleep deprivation.

EEG in it is slow wave.

REM sleep.

During this dreaming occurs. Muscles loose tone. Eyes dart fast. It is believed to be responsible for integration of new data with other data and old information available in brain’s neural connections.

It is hence place for creativity and innovation as it connects different fields of information which are unrelated.

It is important for brain development of infants and kids. Hence REM sleep is more in early age and reduces as we age.

Quality and quantity of sleep reduces as we age.

Factors affecting sleep.

1. Caffeine – It competes with adenosine binding sites in brain and reduces sleep pressure. It’s half life is 6-7 hours. So avoid consuming caffeine during second half of the day.

2. Alcohol – Fragments sleep and disrupts REM sleep. Restorative power of sleep falls.

3. Temperature – Fall in the core temperature of the body helps in inducing sleep. Shower helps. Cool room helps. Excercise just before sleeping disrupts this effect.

4 Jet lag – Confuses circadian rhythm.

Areas of sleep generation.

Mid frontal cortex just above nasal bridge is site of the origin of sleep. And it spreads backwards towards occipital lobe. These are the areas which are earliest to degenerate as we age.

What happens if we sleep less.

Decreased memory, retention and reproduction of the facts. Increased chances of diabetes, infections and cancers. Increased emotional liability and obesity. Increase incidence of psychiatric illness.

Increased incidence of accidents.

Do sleeping pills help.

No . They produce unnatural sleep. They have addictive potential. Rebound insomnia can occur. People taking pills have increased mortality over next two and half years.

Normal length of sleep

Generally eight hours of good quality of sleep is recommended. It follows J curve like water consumption and food intake. After 9 hours, benefits of sleep start to reduce again.

New enemy of sleep

Blue LED light reduces Melantonin secretion by 50%. It also reduces REM sleep. Hence reading a paperback is better than reading on an ipad near the bedtime.

At last what helps us to sleep

1. Stay away from caffeine, alcohol and nicotine.

2. Stick to a sleep schedule. Try to go to bed at same time and get up at same time.

3. Excercise but not close to the time of sleeping.

4. Avoid day naps after 3 pm.

5. Avoid medicines that disrupt sleep.

6. Avoid large meals near bedtime.

7. Wind down before sleeping. Do something that relaxes you.

8. Dark room. Cold room. Gadget free room. Keep the clock away. Comfortable bedding.

9. Taking Bath before sleep can help lower your body temperature.

10. Get cozy with sunlight. Get one hour sunlight exposure in morning and dark indoors in the evening.

11. Don’t stay in bed if you are not sleeping. Do some relaxing stuff like reading a paperback. And return to the bed when you feel sleepy.

Inspiration – Why we sleep by Matthew walker.

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Lessons from the book courage to be disliked. #Alfredalder #hapiness #psychology

Category – psychology

Reading time – 5 minutes

Ever wondered why it is so hard to be happy!

When human beings started as a hunter gatherers, it was relatively easy to be happy. You needed few things to be happy. You needed food, water, warmth, safety and a family and you were okay.

Their were no stocks, bills or quarterly targets.

As time passed, hapiness got increasingly attached to external things. It depended on things you could gather and then feel happy by displaying those things to others. Humans started collecting land, money, metals, fat and servants.

But then things got more complicated. It was still hard to be happy.

They stocked more and more stuff,only to see that it got outdated before they could earn enough to buy its next version.

They needed pills more frequently to be happy and feel meaningful.

As incomes grew; after a particular level of money; hapiness stayed the same.

So, it was probably wrong approach to achieve sustained hapiness free of transient dopamine spikes.

Only when hapiness is detached from the external things, tgen only it can become stable and eternal.

When I read , courage to be disliked, I realised it was the simplest philosophy to be happy. Although it was hard to apply fully in real world; but it provides framework over which sustained hapiness could be developed.

I will share few of these concepts of Alderian psychology in this blog with illustrations.

Here we go.

1. Think in terms of teleology and not in terms of aetiology.

Aetiology is cause of an event. Teleology is purpose behind that event.

For example if somebody is depressed, we may deduce that, he is depressed because of his troubled home environment. ( Aetiological explaination)

In teleolgical terms, person has created depressive symptoms to avoid the effort of sorting out causes of his depression. ( Teleological explaination)

So, if we start seeing things in terms of hidden purpose, in stead of exact cause; it will be easier to start acting for improvement of the condition.

Aetiology provides difficult route to a solution. Teleology makes it a bit simpler. Aetiology gives causes, teleology guides towards possible solutions.

2. Stay away from life lies –

Life lie is lie that we make to avoid change. We shift blame from ourselves to someone else.

Like feeling inferiority to avoid being courageous enough to change your circumstances. It is easy to stay locked in home by constructing life lie of inferiority complex; than going out to face your fears and making best of whatever talent you possess.

3. Once you find purpose behind a particular symptom, you need to accept yourself and move ahead in spite of the fear. You need to have courage.

As all great minds have said, we choose our emotions, our reactions to a particular event and meaning that we provide to a certain event.

If you accept these, you give yourself power to change.

Humans are slow to change. Change needs courage. Change is inconvenient. Change needs sacrifice and pain.

We rather choose to avoid it. We may create symptoms like anger, impulsiveness, depression, irritability, inferiority to avoid the change. Our purpose of all these symptoms may be an effort to avoid process of painful change.

Better thing is to see that you can change situation with hit and trials using courage and assistance from your family, meditation or your doctor.

First you need to know that you have power over your response and thoughts.

Think I have ability.

4. All problems are interpersonal problems.

All problems can be seen as problems arising out of our relationship with others and situations.

Don’t put your happiness in the hands of external things. Other people or things or situations. This will free you of a lot of burden.

Keep out of useless competition. Don’t get sucked up into useless struggles, to prove your superiority to anyone. Even if you are correct, don’t assert your yourself. If you are right, don’t sweat to prove it.

Don’t fall in trap of reward punishment circuit.

Step back and show no reaction. See problem in the circumstances, not in the particular person.

Life is not a competition. Don’t compare with others, compare with your old self. You should be improving with time.

5. Develop feeling that all people are my comrades. Develop horizontal relationships.

All humans are not same, but all are equal. Consider everyone as your friend or comrade.

It gives you power to think positively and to stay away from negative feelings. This will give you ability to see their perspective. It will solve a lot of problems.

Treat everyone as equal with no bias or hierarchy. It gives community feeling. Know that you are not centre of the universe and don’t expect many things from others. See what you can contribute, in place of what you can get.

6. Seperate tasks –

See clearly which is your task and which is not. If it is not your task, don’t overindulge in its execution. Provide nudge or guidance but don’t do it yourself.

For example, if child is not studying well understand that it is his task. Tell him that studies are necessary for him. Provide for tuition, reading space and help whenever he requires. But don’t force things on the child or punish.

Let him walk his path himself, so that he learns to face life alone.

7. Know that contribution leads to hapiness –

If you contribute to society and other people, your feeling of self-worth and hapiness are exalated. Believe in others. Don’t generalise things.

Few bad events or people don’t make everything bad.

Contribute according to your ability. But still know that person is worthy for being or existing. His contribution increases this worth.

8. Know that life is a journey, not a destination. Life is a series of dots, it is not a straight line.

To summarise everything.

See purpose of an event or action. Seperate tasks. Focus on internal drive for hapiness. Treat everyone as comrade. Solve interpersonal issues. Have courage to change.

Have courage to be disliked.

Inspiration – Courage to be disliked

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Why refugees use boats? #immigrants #europe

Category – business and money

Reading time – 3 minutes

This story is taken from the book, factfullness.

It is eye-opening write-up. It tells us that; even if intentions are good and legislation in place, still beneficiary may be deprived of a benefit due to misinterpretation of things and complexities of a process.

In year 2015, as people tried to flee to better lands amongst middle eastern Syrin war. As many as 4000 refugees drowned in meditarranean sea; as they tried to cross it with inflatable boats.

They paid loafty money to mediators and found themselves with their families; in the middle of no where.

This happened in spite of Geneva convention aggrement; which enables refugees from Syria to seek asylum in Europe.

But, when people tried to reach airports they faced effects of anti illegal immigrants directive, which was designed to stop illegal immigrants. This directive required airlines company to ship back illegal immigrant for free.

Hence, on airport counter every asylum seeker was seen as illegal immigrant. Hence Geneva convention failed to help them due unclear and complex process.

Why didn’t they use good boats.

Because, there is EU policy to confiscate illegal boats. Hence, if people used boats they will be captured and gone

Hence, desperate people used inflatable boats which are very unstable and risky.

Hence inspite of remedy (permission of asylum under Geneva convention); it was really hard for refugees to reach Europe to seek asylum.

Inspiration – Factfullness by Hans Rosling

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Lessons from the book the extreme ownership #extremeownership #sniper #personalgrowth

Category – psychology

Reading time – 5 minutes

Jocko Willink and Leif Babin are former Navy Seals who fought in IRAQI town of the Ramadi.

They have now written about their experiences of war and lessons that they learnt, in a little beautiful book , “The Extreme Ownership.”

Let’s see what we can learn from this book.

1. Leader must take extreme ownership of everything bad that happens to his team and mission. He should not blame anybody else.

2. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders.

3. Leader must have a unwavering faith in his mission and team. He must be able to make his team believe, that their mission is vital and must.

4. Leader must not try to nurse or assert his ego. He must accept his mistakes and improve plans of their mission.

5. Cover and move. Each member is vital and win is only possible by teamwork. Each member of team should support other members.

6. Simplify your message and processes, so that team can easily understand it even in extremely daunting situations.

7. Prioritize things. Get decisively engaged, so that you and your team doesn’t have to think about retreating ever.

8. Decentralise Power. Delegate responsibility to your team members, so that efficiency can be increased.

9. Each member should take responsibility in case he finds mission is getting offtrack.

10. Practice with discipline all your important tasks, so that doing them takes minimum effort. Discipline gives freedom.

11. Always know that most of the times leaders have to make decisions based on incomplete information. Have courage to make quick decisions.

Inspiration – Extreme ownership by Leif Babin and Jocko Willink.

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Things that mentally strong people do. #motivation #selfdevelopment #business

Category – Business

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1. They avoid self pity. It solves nothing and clouds consciousness. Instead strong people practice graditute.

2. They don’t give key of their happiness to external source. They avoid people pleasing or expecting things from people. They observe and avoid judging .

3. They take calculated risks. They do rational rule breaking. They try to cross little beyond their comfort zones, where progress usually begins.

4. They don’t fear change. They know change is rule of the life. They try to embrace it with open heart and mind.

5. They don’t dwell in the past. They learn from it and move on.

6. They try to never repeat the same mistake twice.

7. They know that it cannot always stay good and smooth. They accept and face difficulties.

8. They take full responsibility of their life and actions.

9. They see long term and have broad perspective.

10. They know that journey makes 99% of any endeavour and they try to savour it.

11. They know no defeat is final and no win is eternal.

12. They see problem in the situation, not in people.

13. They stick to their paths, even if everything falls apart. Grit is rare talent that mentally strong people posses and it is their most formidable tool.

Inspiration – Many books

Lessons from the book the infinite game #infinitegame #business#startup

Category – Business

Reading time – 2 minutes

A business owner has one thing in his mind- profits. That is where is eyes are. After Friedman’s theories took deep roots in society, it was ok to work for investors only.

It was easy to forget employees. Afterall unemployment will never end and you could always get new person to take place of the last one.

This finite mindset makes companies to lay off people, on slightest jolts in their business.

But they miss the reality. They don’t see the hidden costs.

1. A employee who loves company is an asset.

2. Customers are also humans like employees. You should be able to keep all humans happy.

3. Trained and old staff keeps customers coming back.

4. Training and retaining new staff is also a money consuming process.

5. If nobody stays for long how will teams form and coalesce.

So love your staff.

So that they love your business.

And due to that customers also love it.

Inspiration – The infinite game by Simon Sinek.

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